“If it would feel foolish talking about it with GOD, maybe you shouldn’t be talking about it at all….”

Several months ago this hit my spirit hard. I really started to think about what was I focusing on the most and what I was speaking over my life.

The answer was I was focused on lack and petty things, including offenses and I was giving those things power by continually talking about them with others. I thought I was looking for advice and reassurance but if I really dug deep – I was looking for sympathy from man instead of trusting God for answers.

But why?

Often, we look for people to validate our concerns, our bitterness, our hurt. We want someone to tell us that it’s ok we feel the way we do, that our actions are warranted. We avoid taking things to God because we know He will ask us to forgive, to love and often change. And change can be hard. Really hard. And uncomfortable. But sometimes, it’s necessary. And we know it.

That day I decided to start lifting my concerns to Him FIRST. If I was mad or hurt about something instead of texting or calling someone or venting to a group, I talked to Him. And you know what? 9 times out of 10 I felt foolish after spilling my guts and realized just how petty it was to begin with. He used this time to teach me, to whisper to my spirit why these things had offended me so much and let me I know what I needed to work on. ME. Not them.

Friends, don’t let yourself take offense to things so easily. Don’t let them take root in your heart and water them with your words. Take it to God, let it go and ask Him to help you to grow instead ❤️

3 Steps for Reaching Your Goals in Spite of Deception-2

We do it all the time. We think of some major, fantabulous goal we want to reach in record time and we get excited. We start to imagine what it will be like when we hit our goal and we hit the gate running, or we go “all in” as we like to call it. We have a ton of energy, excitement and optimism…. for a bit and then all of a sudden…

Deception hits.

We miss a step. We stumble. We forget a turn. We slow down. We turn around. We grow tired. We begin to doubt. Things aren’t going the way we thought they would. Things are going slower than we wanted. We lose sight of our goal. We begin to question our abilities. We start saying things under our breath like “Can I even do this? Is this even possible? What was I thinking?!?..”

It’s important to recognize deception for what it is, a lack of confidence caused by uncertainty. When we are not 100% certain of our abilities or the outcome ahead we tend to falter or hesitate. If you’ve ever felt this way, good news! That means you’re HUMAN :)

So how do you push past this? How do you keep moving forward even when doubt sets in?

Well, the first tip begins with your initial goal. While it’s important to have a big-picture goal, it’s equally if not more so important that you break that larger goal into smaller goals or milestones. Determine specific tasks that you want to achieve and a reasonable timeline so that when you complete those items it will feel like a win and you know that they are taking you closer to your end goal. This will help to keep you motivated.

The second tip is to recognize deception for what it is and to EXPECT it. It’s a natural instinct to be uncomfortable when we experience uncertainty. When this happens, try not to get discouraged but rather celebrate this knowing that change only happens when we do something we haven’t done before and the fact you are uncomfortable means change is coming!

Lastly, find an accountability partner. Let them know your goal and ask them to check in with you consistently to help you stay focused. Find someone who is positive and willing to celebrate your small wins with you. If this person is someone who tends to “keep things real” and struggles with their own motivation, find someone else.

Now go ahead. Set some major, fantabulous goals. Break them down into smaller, awesome goals. Find a friend to cheer you on. Expect deception. Recognize it when it comes. Get excited because this means change is coming. Keep moving. Complete smaller goals. Celebrate with friend. Reach fantabulous goal. Smile because you knew you could do it all along :)


Develop Your VisionCreate a PlanStart to Build-3

Let’s say you have a goal to lose 20lbs, take a vacation, pay off debt, or run your first marathon. What should your first step be? Well, if you’re like most people you are so focused on reaching your goal as fast as possible you start trying to change everything you can all at once. You get overwhelmed. You begin to question whether or not you can stick with the changes. You begin to doubt yourself. You forget why you started…. and then you quit.

Don’t be like everyone else.

Here are 8 Steps to Reaching Your Goals Successfully:

  1. Visualize Your Goal – First, you must fully define your goal. Grab a notebook and pen, and find a quiet place to sit. Close your eyes and visualize your goal. What does it look like? What will you do when you reach this goal? How will you feel if you reach this goal? Why do you want this goal? What will it mean to you? Write everything down you can think of that captures this goal, including your why.
  2. Make a Vision Board – Making a vision board helps you to remember the bigger picture. Use your notes from step 1 to choose images to attach to a poster board, wall, frame, etc. Take your time and be thorough. Too often, we get consumed with individual tasks and we forget why we started in the first place. This will be your reminder. This will be your blueprint. Hang it somewhere you can see it throughout your day and constantly refer back to it. Can’t post it at work? Take a picture of it and save it as your phone wallpaper.
  3. Develop your Vision – Now that you have visualized what you want, and put it in writing, determine what needs to happen to make your dream a reality. What needs to happen before you can take that trip or run that race? Don’t get into too much detail here, just focus on determining what major milestones need to take place.
  4. Determine What You Need – No matter if your goal is physical, financial, mental, etc – it’s important to realize what tools you will need. If you want to lose weight, it’s important to have meal plans, healthy snacks, a support group, an exercise schedule, a food journal, etc before you even start. Don’t just jump into action without having the proper tools and expect things will just work out. It won’t. Promise. Preparation is KEY.
  5. Create a Plan – Now that you know what your goal is, when you want it, what you need to accomplish it, and who is going to help you –  you need to determine HOW you will make it happen. Create an action plan with specific tasks and deadlines for each milestone that will help you stay on focus. Be as thorough as possible. Maybe you will prepare meals on Sundays for the week ahead, or map out your gym time. Maybe you will run a specific distance each day to build stamina for your race.
  6. Ask for Help – You are going to need help. Period. If you are going after a bigger goal, you are going to need a mentor, an accountability partner, a support group, etc. Identify someone (or a group of people) who have already achieved similar goals – this may mean someone other than a close friend or relative – and ask for their help. Let them know your goals and ask them to help keep you on track.
  7. START – They say that having a goal without a plan is simply a dream or a wish, which is true. However, having a goal with a plan isn’t enough to be successful – you must also START. Start by focusing on just the first step. Don’t get overwhelmed with how much you have to do, change, or how much time you have left, etc.. Just focus on the first step, followed by another step.
  8. CELEBRATE – Don’t forget to celebrate the milestones along the way. Taking time to recognize your accomplishments, no matter how small, will help you stay motivated and serve as a reminder of just how far you’ve come.

The key to reaching your goal is having a plan to keep you on track, having the belief you can achieve it, and having a support system to remind you that you can achieve it on the days you forget.

What are some tips that have helped you?